How to ease

Use a step ladder approach

Practice short periods of separation and gradually build up tolerance

Schedule separation after naps or feeding, hunger and tiredness can make it worse

Develop a quick “goodbye” ritual

Leave without fanfare. Tell your child you are leaving and that you will return, then go - don’t stall or make it a bigger deal

Follow through on promises, return at the time you promised, this develops confidence

Keep surroundings familiar where possible

Have a consistent primary caregiver e.g. regular baby sitter

Minimise scary exposures including television, videos, games

Try not to give in. Reassure your child they will be fine and set consistent limits

Resource

Separation anxiety - Raising Children Network

Step ladder approach - Raising Children Network

Generalised Anxiety in Kids - Macquarie University

Separation Anxiety in Children - Early Childhood Australia

Separation anxiety - Beyond Blue

School Refusal - RACGP